Daddy's Boy

Sometimes I like to look waaaaaay back in my phone at the pictures and videos of my E when he was a baby. I flip through them and smile and laugh and cannot believe he got so big so fast. E will be 3 1/2 in December. He is tall for his age, which means we have trouble finding pants that are long enough without falling right off his little booty. He is still an incredibly picky eater and continues to live mostly off of bread and milk with the occasional chicken nugget or order of fries thrown in. We add Pediasure to his milk, he drinks a watered down mix of V8 splash juice (the one with the sneaky veggies), and he takes vitamins. The pediatrician says he is healthy and growing fine, but his diet woes are really driving me crazy. There have been a few nights where all he will eat for dinner is goldfish and milk. I am trying to be okay with that....still trying. He is doing well at preschool and his teacher says he interacts with the other children and talks to them. I have to say that it is still very frustrating to me that I can often not tell if he does not understand me or if he is ignoring me. We still use both speaking and sign language at home. Sometimes I worry that we have not done enough to achieve fluency in either language. Other times, he expresses complex ideas in either sign or voice that leave us stunned and wondering where he has been hiding all of that. He continues to excel at word recognition. We are far beyond learning and writing the alphabet now. E has shown us that he is interested in spelling, reading, and sight word recognition. As I have mentioned in the past, rather than try to press him into any mold, we take cues from his interests and expand on them. One thing I can tell you for sure is that E is NOT going to do anything he is not interested in doing. You can bribe, reward, encourage, threaten, cry...it will not work. Anyway, when we noticed his interest in spelling and his ability to pick out familiar words, I downloaded a few spelling and sight word apps for his iPad. These apps say they are for 1st and 2nd graders. E loves them and is blasting right through the curriculum. I'm not saying my kid is a genius (at least not out loud *wink), but I definitely see that kids can accomplish fantastic things when you feed their interests!

For Halloween, we didn't know what E would be. All of the costumes in the stores were pretty lame for little boys. The options seemed to be superhero or ninja. E isn't into superheroes right now and I'm not sure he even knows what a ninja is. He has been very interested in fire trucks and firemen lately, so we thought a fireman's uniform might be a great costume. Well, it sure would have been if I was into paying $30-40 for something he would wear once or twice! E has recently discovered the joys of playing the Wii with his daddy. He loves to watch his daddy play Legend of Zelda and cheer him on. He tried playing it himself, but quickly became frustrated when he couldn't find his way out of the level. So, it occurred to me that I could easily make a Link costume (that's the main good guy character for those of you who were not raised in the Nintendo era). For a grand total of about $10, my little guy went as Link and my husband was beaming with nerdy pride.

E got to go trick-or-treating for the first time this year. Usually, we just do the festival at the church, but we took him around to a few friends' houses this year. He really loved it! He went trick-or-treating with his preschool class as well. One of the items he received in his bag was a little orange Gideon Bible. He has his own Bible, but this one was just his size. He has carried his little orange Bible all over the house and insists on sleeping with it!  He enjoys pretending to read it and have us read it to him. Just so you know, it is no easy task translate King James wording into sign language!

Many of you know that E loves Mickey Mouse. A couple of weeks ago, he informed me while watching "Mickey Mouse Clubhouse," that he actually loves Daisy. I'm not sure if it is because she wears purple (E's current favorite color) or if he just has a crush on a cartoon duck, but I posted his quip about Daisy to facebook. It wasn't long after that we got a call from my Mother-in-law telling us that she had found a stuffed Daisy Duck and bought it for E. When we went down for a family wedding, she presented E with his new Daisy. His reaction:

He gave Daisy a hug and a kiss and told us all that Daisy was his girlfriend :-) Daisy now has shares a space beside Mickey on his pillow at night. His bedtime collection includes a blankie, a panda bear, Mickey, Daisy, doggy, Cayman the turtle, his mini pillow pet, and his orange Gideon Bible. It's a good thing we went with the full size bed!

Lastly, a new and heartbreaking thing has occurred. I have been put aside in favor of Daddy. For the first time in over three years, E will tell me that he wants Daddy instead of Mommy. It doesn't happen every night, but I have been replaced at bath time. Occasionally, he even chooses Daddy for his nightly cuddles and prayer time. I know it shouldn't bother me and that my husband deserves baby cuddles too, but I find it really depressing. It is especially tough after I haven't seen him all day and I come home from work to find that Daddy the parent of choice for the night. Any other moms experienced this? How did you react? It's not that he wants Daddy, it's that he will actually push me away if I try to do something that he wants Daddy to do instead. Is it just a phase or the beginning of the boy's only club??

It's Been a While...

It has been a little while since I've posted, so I thought I would give a quick recap of what we have been doing:

 Building Blanket Forts

Family Photos

Having a Blast at the Beach

Starting the 3rd Year of Preschool

Feeding Giraffes Through the Sun Roof

There ya' have it! That's the quick version at least :-)

A little information...

I am often surprised at how, even in today's time, the general population knows and understands very little about deafness and hearing loss. For those of you who read this blog and are involved in E's life, I thought it was time to provide a little information that may help you to better understand...

About 1 in 1,000 children are born deaf or hard of hearing.

90% of all deaf children are born to hearing parents.

50% of the time, no known cause can be identified.

Not every deaf person is a candidate for a cochlear implant. The cochlea and auditory nerves must be intact and that is not always the case.

Not every deaf person who IS a candidate for a cochlear implant wants one.
Cochlear implants do NOT cure deafness. They are a tool that artificially simulates hearing.

With a cochlear implant, the recipient does not hear the same way that hearing people hear. "Hearing" is an active process and takes practice and concentration to "learn" how to interpret the sound input.

Not every cochlear implant is successful in terms of providing hearing and speech. The results vary from person to person. Implantation does not automatically mean a person will "hear" or speak normally.

When the external portion of a cochlear implant is not on, the implant user is as deaf as he/she ever was. Natural hearing will not be restored.

Research shows that only about 30% of lipreading is fully comprehended. Do not assume that a deaf or hard of hearing person can just read your lips. While they probably are quite skilled at lipreading, it is not precise and errors in understanding can be serious in certain scenarios. This is why interpreters must be provided when requested (medical and legal especially!).
 
Being deaf is not considered a disability in the state of North Carolina.

The majority of deaf people do not consider themselves to be disabled just because they cannot hear.

The terms "deaf" or "hard of hearing" are acceptable. "Hearing Imparied" is unfortunately still commonly used among hearing people, but is not the correct term to use.

Speaking more loudly, slowly or exaggerating the movements of your mouth actually make it more difficult for someone to understand you if they are reading your lips.

There is no universal sign language. Signed languages differ from country to country just like spoken languages.

Most importantly: ASK QUESTIONS. Do not be afraid to ask questions and gain understanding. I welcome questions. I do not welcome stares and assumptions.

E is 3!

This past weekend, E turned three. I cannot believe how fast the time has flown! We booked a small party for him at our local YMCA where we have a wading pool/water park that was perfect for E and his pals.

 Pool Party Cupcakes

Serious Cupcake Destruction

 

 Splash Attack on Daddy!

 New Big Bed for a Big Boy

My sweet E, you are now 3 years old!

Favorite activities: playing outside and cuddling

Favorite foods: you still pretty much only eat chicken nuggets and french toast and you love chocolate milk and french fries

Favorite Book: Lama Lama Red Pajama

Favorite TV show(s): Bubble Guppies and Team Umizoomi

Favorite toys/items: Blankie, Lovey, and Mickey Mouse, a ball of any kind, and your iPad

You are still great at knowing your ABCs and you sing your ABCs all the time. You are starting to recognize and "read" some words in your books. You love to pretend to read to Mommy and Daddy. You know all of your shapes and colors and can easily count to twenty. You have a current obsession with flash lights and measuring tapes. You got a real one of each from Lowe's as one of your birthday gifts. You are a master in the art of procrastination. You come up with new ways every night to try to prolong your bedtime routine. Your most powerful trick is when you tell us you want to cuddle just a bit longer. You are so sweet and give the best kisses and hugs! You love water just like your parents. Even getting you out of the tub each night is quite a struggle. You are loved by so many and you steal hearts everywhere you go. I love you my sweet boy!

 

Easter

We went to South Carolina to visit our parents for Easter. E had a wonderful time as you can see:

E helping Nana make biscuits

 

 

 

 Dying Eggs (only two ended up in tact)

 The dipper took too long, so he used his hand.

 Finding eggs with his cousins

 Dapper gent showing of his southern Easter finery

He's a little too quick for the camera, but he gave me a pose for just a second :-)

E's Spells His Name

The video starts a little late because we didn't realize what he was doing at first. E spelled his name using his magnet letters!

I Want My EARS!

Yesterday, E had an ear infection. When I went to pick him up from the nanny's house, he was not wearing his cochlear or hearing aid. He had refused them after his nap, which is understandable being that his ear hurt. I put his devices in coat pocket and we left. Everything was fine until we started to leave the neighborhood of our nanny's house. I stopped at the stop sign and as I went to pull away, E started crying and screaming and telling me "No! Stop!" and pointing to his ears. He wouldn't explain beyond that. I stopped at the next stop sign and he calmed down. As I pressed the gas pedal, he started to point to his ears again and scream. I was baffled. Every time we stopped, he calmed down and every time I started to drive again, he pointed to his ears and screamed. I began to think that the vibration of the car was somehow bothering his infected ear. I quickly drove across town to our house with E absolutely flipping out the entire way.

When we arrived home, E got out of the car and headed down the driveway. He told me he was going to the nanny's house. I grabbed him before he got to the road and asked why he didn't want to be at home. He pointed to his ears, then pointed in the direction we go to drive to the nanny's house. That's when it hit me...he thought we left his ears at her house! I pulled his devices from my coat and showed him that mommy had not forgotten his ears. He wanted me to put them on right then and there in the middle of the drive way. After he had his ears on, he grinned, spun around and headed right into the house. He wanted his ears and he was going to get them even if he had to walk there!! If it weren't for the ear infection, I probably would have figured it out, but he was in such a fit that I thought he was actually in pain. He has always acted rather ambivalent about his "ears," so I just did not expect this from him, especially since he had not been wearing them most of the afternoon at the nanny's house. If I ever wondered if he liked using his devices or not, I think I got my answer last night! I wish I could have just followed him to see where he went when he thought he was going to walk back to get them :-)